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The other day, I overheard this conversation in a hotel breakfast area:

Daughter: I’ve never asked for anything before but I really need help

Loving sounding Father:  That’s right, you never ask for anything

Daughter: this business is really great….organic garden, organic yogurt, grass fed beef,,,

Later on in the conversation…

Father with gentle voice:  Do you REALLY need an iPhone?  An iPhone plan is expensive    You already have an iPad and a cell phone and it seems like you can do everything you need with those two.

Daughter:  But Dad, you DON”T understand, they talk to each other…

Father gently:  But you can’t afford both and your money would could be spent on things that would benefit you more…

What do we REALLY need?  I’ve asked myself that frequently and always the answer is probably a lot less than I think in material things and a lot more in community, love and understanding.

Wow, someone at Harvard University developed this fantastic app for the iPhone called Track Your Happiness.  This nifty app let’s you take a small survey your attitudes and actions and you control how often you take the survey.  The questions vary and ask things like how many people you are with, what you are doing (multiple choice with a fill in the blank) how happy you are, how focused you are.

I found that I immediately started focusing more on the positive things in my life as soon as i started using this handy app.  ”Try it, you’ll like it.”

www.trackyourhappiness.org

 

This week, family came from all over the country and England to visit my Mom who is in Hospice.  Just when we thought the visit couldn’t get better, a perfect stranger showed unforgettable generosity.  My sister and I wheeled my Mom around the neighborhood where she lives so we could look at the nice gardens.  We were particularly taken with some peonies and stopped to admire them.  Around the corner and down the street we heard running footsteps and a “wait a minute” . This lovely young man said he saw us admiring his flowers.  He cut some and ran after us with a wonderful bouquet.  Sometimes the smallest action can leave a very big smile and impression.

 

Repressing The Real You Makes You Sick

Repressing The Real You Makes You Sick

I write a lot about authenticity, being unapologetically YOU, and letting your freak flag fly. In my TEDx talk, I spoke about the importance of tapping into your Inner Pilot Light and living in alignment with what’s true for you as a means of both preventative medicine and medical treatment. And in my upcoming book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself (Hay House, 2013), I make the assertion that caring for your body is the least important part of your health and that expressing your true self in all aspects of your life is the most important part.

But you might not believe me. How can authenticity and disease be linked?

As research for my next book, I’m reading the book Consciousness & Healing. In a chapter co-written by the phenomenal Candace Pert, a study was referenced that blew me away.

Authenticity & Disease Progression

Steve Cole and his colleagues at UCLA investigated HIV-positive gay men to determine whether how “out” vs. “closeted” they were with their homosexuality affected disease progression. Study participants were asked to rate themselves as “definitely in the closet,” “in the closet most the time,” “half in and half out,” “out most of the time,” or “completely out of the closet.”

Researchers then followed the course of their disease.

What did they find?

Hiding Who You Are – Whether From Yourself or Others – Makes You Sick

Bingo. On all counts, HIV infection advanced more quickly in direct proportion to how “out of the closet” the patients were. The more they lived in alignment with their truth, the healthier they were. And the results weren’t subtle. Those that were mostly or all the way in the closet hit critically low CD4 counts 40 percent faster than those who were mostly or all the way out, with a 21 percent reduction in time to death.

Other data suggests that this isn’t just true for AIDS. Concealing your identity – whether you’re hiding your unhappiness in your marriage, your dissatisfaction at work, your frustration with how creatively thwarted you feel while raising three kids, or your sexual frustration in a partnership where you’re not getting any – can compromise your ability to heal.

Repression of your true feelings is bad for your health. Unfettered expression of who you are ramps up your inherent physiological self-healing mechanisms.

Being unapologetically YOU is also the ticket to emotional freedom, more open-hearted relationships, better business success, a deeper connection to Source, and more restful sleep!

It’s your choice.

Are you in the closet in your life?

Are you living in alignment with your truth? Do you even know what your truth is?

If you’re not sure or you need help coming out in all aspects of your life, accept the invitation to align with your truth and take a daily dose of preventative medicine by signing up for free daily messages from your Inner Pilot Light.

What can you do to more closely align with your truth? Let us be your witnesses.

Holding the door wide open,

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Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.comPink Medicine Revolutionarymotivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.

Learn more about Lissa Rankin here.

Read more: HealthLifeSelf-HelpSpirit

Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/repressing-the-real-you-makes-you-sick-for-real.html#ixzz1u9UvHnOC

This meditation can have a profound effect on your ability to decrease reactions to events from the past and events going on in your life today.

Sit and meditate in silence for a few minutes. Take a deep breath. Think of a situation where you feel uncomfortable, fearful, angry or any other emotion that you don’t feel is helpful. Take another deep breath. Think about the physical response you have to that situation. Take another deep breath. Put your hand over your heart and practice deep compassion for how that emotion affects your body. Imagine the tension leaving your body.

Next, take a deep breath (keeping hand over your heart) and think about how that situation affects how you think about yourself, any fearful thoughts or angry thoughts etc. Have deep compassion for yourself and any unhappiness you are experiencing.

Now repeat the above only imagine how the situation is affecting how you are reacting to the people around you.

Remember to be very specific about your reactions. Enjoy this life transforming meditation.

We had class 2 of Finding Meaning In Life. Concurrently, we had a class with Anyen Rinpoche on Dying With Confidence – the topic and name of his newest book. Both have a similar message – meditate on impermanence. When we remember how impermanent everything is, we develop a greater appreciation for what we have and are better prepared to let go when things change.

Every night, think about different things in your life. Identify how they change. Emotions are impermanent, they change from moment to moment. Relationships are impermanent. Even if you stay with the same person, one of you is going to die first. And even during that relationship, the nature of the relationship ebbs and flows. And physical things are impermanent. You buy a new house with new appliances. At some point, one of your appliances will break down and you will need to buy a new one, your carpet will need to be replaced.
The evidence of impermanence is all around us but it is human nature to ignore it.

Meditate on impermanence and you will be better prepared for change, better prepared for death and more appreciative of life.

Last week, we discussed the importance of learning how to listen to yourself. Did you know that some sources estimate that we think 35-45 thoughts per minute?  Americans tend to make themselves too busy to hear their own inner thoughts.Consider the following;

Americans place great value in being busy and having a career that is a large part of their identity.  According to ABC news:

“Americans work more than anyone in the industrialized world.  More than the English, more than the French, way more than the Germans or Norwegians. Even, recently, more than the Japanese. And Americans take less vacation, work longer days, and retire later, too.”

So what happens? When we aren’t working, we are too busy doing errands to much of anything else.  Finding happiness means setting priorities and to set priorities, one must learn to listen to inner dialogue.  

The easiest way to do that is to learn some basic meditation techniques.

One year, I meditated for 45 minutes in the morning and 45 minutes in the evening.  I shut off the TV and didn’t listen to or read about any news.  My entire life changed (for the better) and I had plenty of time to do the things that really mattered to me.

So take the time to learn to meditate.  The results are subtle at first they can be life changing.

Next week, we talk about having self-compassion.  Sometimes when we start really listening to ourselves, we end up realizing we have a lot of self-defeating dialogue.

Stay tuned for tips to enhance your compassion for yourself and others.

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